I’ve taken some time to process the shit storm that happened this past Tuesday. Sadly I was hoping that this one wasn’t going to actually happen but I was, in some ways, already bracing for it. Some background information, both of my sons are autistic. My oldest son had the right teacher for him in preschool and subsequent years. He is now in 1st grade and is keeping up with his classmates. My youngest son hasn’t made the same progress in preschool. The previous teacher that my oldest had left to work for another school but still tutors him, thankfully. Unfortunately the current preschool teachers and current director all came from the first preschool that I pulled my oldest from. It looks like we are having the same problem with them at this school. I would say I’m surprised, but I’m really not. (sigh) Last year he did okay, but this year he is without the extra help because she has college in the morning. Instead of putting my son in the morning to be with her they put him in the afternoon without the extra help. He’s nonverbal and very active. Seriously, that was my first indication things might go wrong this year. This means he cannot tell me how his day went. If kids have been mean to him. If the teachers ignore him. If he feels cared for or even if he is.
This past Tuesday I sat in a meeting with his teacher, the school occupational therapist, and one other. I heard about how my son has been hitting and biting kids and teachers. I have not received a single report home about this. Not One! To add to it, there apparently have been two intervention specialists in to observe his behavior. Yet again, not one note home about it. In their words, once was on his worst day and the other on the best which happened to be after the only OT appointment I have taken him to up at Children’s before school. He usually has OT on his day off, every other Friday. Funny enough, the OT that he gets at Children’s seems to be so much better for him than what he is getting at school, or one can only really conclude that at this point. What really pisses me off is that they want me to sign a paper in order for them to discuss my son with his OT at Children’s to get ideas how to “help” him. Bullshit. The OT at school has a degree it’s not someone elses job to do her job. I get it. She has a whole school system but it is more than his lack of adequate OT at school that is a problem. No, if he is having these behavioral issues it’s already gotten out of hand with no person dedicated to just him I don’t see how it can be corrected there at this point. I can’t even type this without being so upset I’m crying. He’s nonverbal. My baby has been going to school dealing with who knows what. He hasn’t bitten anyone at home, thankfully. He hits occasionally but it’s pretty rare here. It usually only happens when he is really frustrated. If he is doing all that at school chances are he is having a hell of a time at school. It breaks my heart.
I already had a scheduled visit to another school set up thanks to my oldest son’s preschool teacher mentioned above for my youngest. I have no doubt at this point that she heard about my youngest, either way I’m just grateful she is helping. It’s just thinking about changing schools for my youngest has me anticipating some meltdowns. He doesn’t deal with change very well. I’m really not sure how I’m going to keep sending him to school until I find something else. So I’m hoping that the visit this coming week will go well. If not that somehow we will be able to find the right one or solution for my youngest.
This past weekend was a busy one. I think it seemed busier to me since I lacked sleep for most of it. It happened to be the weekend that two groups that I am part of had parties, mix that with taking care of children and cleaning parts of the apartment 😱, let’s just say I’m glad that this does not happen for me every weekend. Although, getting up both mornings this weekend to deal with the kids, it was still worth it. ♥😊
This week has already started off different. Instead of my youngest going to OT on Friday, she was able to move him to today, since she took that day off which was awesome because he loves OT, especially all the swings that we don’t have. I’ve looked at possibly getting something that installs in the door frame but he really likes to swing and spin. He comes by the honestly. 😉 Let’s just say he would hit the door frame constantly. I’ve looked at various tripods and such, but the stability just isn’t there or he would run into the polls while trying to spin. So a hard point(s) it is, but it will have to wait until we get into a different place.
After OT we usually run errands or just chill because that’s his day off preschool, so when he had to get ready for school and on the bus he wasn’t so sure about that. Pushing through a few tears and whining, off to school he went. I can tell he had a busy day full of sensory things as he passed out within 15 mins of being put to bed. It usually takes him a little while to calm down and pass out. Nope, not so tonight. 💤
Of course the older two managed to clean and vacuum their rooms today, even if they complained while they did. I learned that Netflix remade the Popples show, who knew? Also listened to Dork Diaries for a bit with my daughter. It’s funny because I would have never thought my children would read books like me (several at once) but we are listening to Brave and How to Train Your Dragon while in the car, then they have other chapter books they read/listen to every evening. I think it’s pretty cool but I’ve also found out that listening to the books on CD makes me sleepy. I guess you can say there is something soothing about being read to.
The rest of the week looks to be busy for me but relaxing for the kids with only 2 days of school this week. Thanksgiving plans sort of, kinda made for staying home on Thursday with taking the kids to my parents for a bit on black Friday, no shopping for me that day. Here’s to hoping this holiday will be a bit more relaxed, fewer upsets, more food consumed (less chasing the youngest while food is warm), and me not losing my mind or sleep due to the change in routine.
I can’t believe it’s already November 16th. A fair amount of Halloween decorations are still up which some of them could pass for Thanksgiving at least that’s what I keep telling myself. We still have some pumpkins, so you know…. Unfortunately, I don’t think there is a single room that is clean here and tons of dishes are piled up. (sigh) I spent about 15 mins on the computer this morning to find that my youngest had completely emptied the water container out in the fridge. I took it as an opportunity to clean out the fridge because everything needed taken out and dried off anyway, thus the overflow of dirty dishes. 😢 This in turn means I now have more trash bags to take out and, oh yeah, I started in on going through all the boys clothes to see what doesn’t fit anymore. I’m sure that our normal clearing out of some toys in preparation for Santa will be next on my things to do. Did I mention I had to get a new phone so I lost all my contacts and pictures? To add to all of this hubby’s Grandmother passed away Monday, or that’s when we were told about it. I’ve met her a few times, the kids have not but kept asking if it was their Grandma which then started a whole new conversation explaining that it was their Great Grandma.
I decided it was a Harry Potter movie sort of day . Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, it was. I tried Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone but the only copy I could find had a crack in it. Luckily it was not my special edition with the extended scenes. Yes, I own several copies of the first few movies in this series. The kids have been watching them since they were little. They are usually a must on rainy days or when they aren’t feeling well. I think it’s about time to reread them too.
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are far more than our abilities.” -Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets by J.K. Rowling
These past few days have been interesting. My phone’s screen just quit working. It blinks and makes noise but that’s about it. Before I took it to the store hubby did a complete wipe and restart. Sadly, I did not have pictures nor phone numbers backed up. 😢 I have some of the pictures loaded to different social media sites, so at least I didn’t lose everything. It’s also not the first time that pictures have been lost. We still have 2 computers that need the hard drive pulled so that we can take pictures off of them. I’m sure it will be another 3-4 years before we get to it. So is life.
Besides being off of my phone all weekend, hubby and I went out to see Dr. Strange in IMAX 3D with some of the people he games with. Let me say, the movie was amazing! Loved it! I may have a thing for sacred geometry and also mandalas. So you can imagine how excited I was. ♥
To complete the weekend, we were lucky enough to see the big bright super moon on our way home tonight with the kids. It is beautiful. 🌑 😉
Today is apparently my 3rd year blogging anniversary under this account. It’s shocking that I only have one other post to show for it but that’s what is to be expected when you choose to make a fresh start. I’m sure that parts of my old posts will find their way into this blog somehow as those things about me haven’t really changed, I just preferred to let them go… off into the deep dark(?) internet abyss and start over, if you will. 🎈
There was quite a bit of fun with crafts, hiking, and most things pumpkin with the kids this year. They had a blast and I tried harder to get in more pictures than I usually do. It tends to be hard to deal with all 3 kids while working the camera on my phone in the middle of whatever we are doing. But I managed to get a few pictures that turned out well. I’m hoping to actually upgrade to a new camera within the next year, as the old family one was handed down to my daughter & oldest son to use. They had fun taking turns taking pictures when the battery was charged. 😊
Our normal Halloween countdown was used but instead of me putting in ideas each day each child choose what they wanted to do for that day instead of everyone doing the same thing. We also went to a different pumpkin patch this year. Kids had fun & pumpkins were cheaper with free things for the kids to do there as well. It was the first year of just the kids & I and surprisingly enough, it worked out. I even managed to get some pictures. Good gods, there seemed to be quite a few firsts the past month. (O.O)
So with Trick-or-Treating, Trauma & Fall leading into Winter, I’m hoping to continue to push past the usual. Continue to find, create and capture those moments with family & friends. But most of all, to keep growing, learning & digging deeper roots.